Don't Be a Grudge Holder!

Takes one to know one!

I admit...I was a Grudge Holder. If someone wronged me...I would cut them out of my life.

That was that! I didn't want to hear their side of the story or let them explain. I didn't want to entertain an apology, let alone forgive someone! Parish the thought!

I have had issues with people in the past that ended very badly and have caused a huge rift. There can be all sorts of reasons and situations that cause people to disagree, argue and split apart. Sometimes these things are temporary...sometimes permanent. This was certainly the case with me and I was "fine" with handling things this way. I mean, I did this for years!

It wasn't until I became Catholic and changed my whole perspective on pretty much everything in my life...that I realized this wasn't and isn't an "okay way" of dealing with past and present hurt.

If someone is genuinely sorry for something they have done to you and actually takes the time and effort to sincerely apologize to you...FORGIVE THEM! That's it! Forgive them! Life is short! Give them another chance! It's risky, they might hurt you again...but would if they DON'T?! Would if there could be peace?

It would not only be a relief to them, but it would relieve you too! Win Win!

Forgive and forget...and if you can't forget...just FORGIVE!